Psychologist's tips: Be initiative, not clingy

14.01.2024 17:30
Updated: 13.05.2024 21:21

When talking to someone you like, you probably want to be more initiative, so your communication won't stop – but how to do that?

Lots of people are afraid of being proactive, because they don't want to be seen as clingy, needy, or desperate.

Here are a few tips on how you can initiate dialogues more often.

Take the initiative

Be the one to initiate conversations or reach out to others. 

Show genuine interest in connecting and engaging with them. 

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By taking the first step, you demonstrate your willingness to communicate and build relationships.

Be attentive

Pay attention to the other person's responses and cues during conversations. 

Listen actively and show that you value their thoughts and opinions. 

This helps create a balanced and mutual exchange.

Respect boundaries

Respect the other person's boundaries and personal space. 

Give them the freedom to respond at their own pace and avoid bombarding them with constant messages or requests. 

Allow for natural pauses in the conversation and give them the opportunity to initiate communication as well.

Be patient

Understand that people have their own commitments and priorities. 

If they don't respond immediately or are unavailable, don't take it personally.

Give them time and space, and avoid pressuring them for an immediate response.

Show understanding

Be empathetic towards the other person's circumstances. 

Recognize that they may have their own challenges or limitations that affect their availability or responsiveness. 

Showing understanding can help foster a healthy and respectful communication dynamic.

Maintain a balance

Strive for a balance between being proactive and giving the other person space. 

Avoid overwhelming them with constant messages or demands for attention. 

Find a rhythm that works for both parties and allows for a comfortable flow of communication.

Previously, we talked about Asperger syndrome.

Kate Yakimchuk Author: Kate Yakimchuk Editor internet resource


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  1. Take the initiative
  2. Be attentive
  3. Respect boundaries
  4. Be patient
  5. Show understanding
  6. Maintain a balance